It’s just another busy day around five o’clock in the afternoon and Mom is walking in the door after a long day at work to see her teen and school aged children sitting on the couch watching a movie. There are dishes all over the kitchen counters, empty chip bags on the coffee table, and their school bags just dropped at the back door. Mom is either accustomed to it, in denial of it, or she will soon blow. In any case, this is not a circumstance that will have a happy conclusion no matter what you opt to do for discipline. I mean, I know this would not happen in your family, however if it did, you would have to put your foot down, right? Continue reading
Stating Your Expectations Clearly From Your Kids
Have you ever had a boss jump down your throat because you didn’t do what he expected, the mere fact that he failed to tell you what exactly he wanted not withstanding? How did you feel? Angry, confused, determined to get even?Unfortunately more often than we realize, we do the same thing to our children don’t we? We expect them to just “clue in” to what we want from them often neglecting to train them adequately. I for one have been guilty of this as a parent . Continue reading
Smoking is much dangerous for a pregnant woman than any other person. Smoking affects your unborn child. If you are going to plan your family or are already pregnant, then you need to concentrate on facts related to smoking. A Mother always wants to give a healthy and fit life to her baby. But continuing with your smoking are you really fulfilling your wish?
Some kids are just built to butt heads with their parents. Call it stubborn or strong-willed or whatever you like. If you’re living with one of these guys, you know that straightforward methods of getting them to follow directions or behave often don’t work. They want to be in charge. But, of course, so do you!
Reducing Challenging Behaviors
After you have identified what triggers challenging behavior in your child, you can use that information to respond more positively to your child’s needs. Here are some tips for how to get started:
Change something from scene:
Change the room, activity, or people involved, so your child feels supported. For example, if your child becomes over-stimulated when playing games with her friends, you might recommend she limit the number of activities going on at one time (“Why don’t you turn off the TV while you’re playing your game?”) or try a different activity (such as painting or playing outside).
How to change your child’s poor behavior.
It’s inevitable that at times our kids are going to be angry at us, and that we’re going to set some limits that they don’t like. But that’s okay—that just means you’re doing your job as a parent. Here are 5 rules that will help you handle disrespect:
1. Don’t take it personally. I know this is a hard one, but try not to take what your child is saying or doing personally. This behavior really is all about them individuating, and not about you. Instead of allowing yourself to feel hurt or angry (which is a surefire way to get pulled into a power struggle), be clear and direct with your child. If they’re being mildly sassy and starting to push some boundaries, you can say, “Don’t talk to me that way, I don’t like it,” and then turn around and walk away. Tell them the behavior is wrong and then disengage from them. If your child’s behavior warrants a consequence, you can say, “It’s not okay to call me names or swear when I tell you can’t go to your friend’s house. I’m taking your cell phone for two hours. During that time, you need to show me you can behave respectfully to people in this house. If you swear or are rude again, the two hours will start over.” Remember, it doesn’t matter if your child likes you right now. This is about doing the right thing, and asking yourself, “What do I want to teach my child?”
Jealousy between sisters and brothers is the most common source of tension in the majority of families. Professionals like to label this problem “sibling rivalry.” This simply means “competition.” Sisters and brothers compete against one another in order to achieve a more favorable position in the eyes of their parents. The prize, of course, is more attention, more love, and a sense of greater status within the family as the most favored child. As the children see it, the name of the game is looking good in your parents’ eyes while seeing to it that your brothers or sisters look really bad.