What makes a child do well in school? When this question is asked from the parents they always have lots of great answers: a high IQ, a terrific school, well-run lessons, skilled teachers, a creative curriculum, high expectations and the list goes on and on Continue reading
Dictionary.com defines assertive as “confidently aggressive or self-assured; positive: aggressive; dogmatic”. They define aggressive as “vigorously energetic, especially in the use of initiative and forcefulness”. Being aggressive and being assertive are often confused because of different points of view. Being assertive can be healthy and positive, but being aggressive definitely is not.
There are four most commonly unhealthy mother daughter relationships
How a father spends his time tells his children what’s important to him. If you always seem too busy for your children, they will feel neglected no matter what you say. Treasuring children often means sacrificing other things, but it is essential to spend time with your children. Kids grow up so quickly. Missed opportunities are lost forever.
How often do you hear parents complaining that teenagers are rebellious and refuse to listen? As a teenager, how many times have you complained that your parents do not at all understand or are ‘control freaks?’
How you as a family can bond together and work through things, caring and supporting each other, even when the going gets tough, making the bonds and connections even stronger than before. Talking about things that are hard and how you are coping can be an eye-opener, sharing perspectives and solutions very empowering!Providing stability, order, schedule, routine and a firm foundation amidst uncertainty is a huge responsibility BUT also an immense opportunity to remain connected with each other.
Communication lays a solid and important foundational element and nature to the family relationships and unit. It strengthens it and deepens the bonds, connections, trust andintimacy you share. Making it a home of comfort, reassurance and shared love.After years of research, experts in child development and child psychology have come to agree that the ideal style for parenting is what is know as the Authoritative style. This is best depicted by a coach. In that role the parent guides and encourages a child to reach his or her true potential.
Parents guide by providing goals and limits that are appropriate to the age, ability and interest of the child.
Parents encourage through praise and celebration of accomplishments.
Parents affirm through a positive relationship that includes time to play and have fun as well as time to communicate and reflect.
Parents also provide training rules to promote healthy development, learn self-discipline and develop a healthy respect for themselves and others.
The information shared here is for parents who with the knowledge and tools necessary to become a parent/coach who can raise a child that can be a winner in life.
Want to be a great parent? Want to raise a happy, healthy, well-behaved kid? Want to live in a home where discipline becomes unnecessary? The secret is to create a closer connection with your child. “What do you mean? Of course I love my kid, and I tell him so all the time. But that doesn’t mean he doesn’t need discipline!” It isn’t enough that we tell our children we love them. We need to put our love into action every day for them to feel it. And when we do that our kids need a lot less discipline!”But what does that mean, putting our love into action?”Mostly, it means making that connection with our child our highest priority. Love in action means paying thoughtful attention to what goes on between us, seeing things from the our child’s point of view, and always remembering that this child who sometimes may drive us crazy is still that precious baby we welcomed into our arms with such hope.”Doesn’t that take a lot of energy?”It takes a lot of effort to fully attend to another human being, but when we are really present with our child, we often find that it energizes us and makes us feel more alive, as being fully present with anyone does. Being close to another human takes work. But 90% of people on their deathbed say that their biggest regret is that they didn’t get closer to the people in their lives. And almost all parents whose children are grown say they wish they had spent more time with their kids.”Being fully present? How can I do that when I’m just trying to get dinner on the table and keep from tripping over the toys?”Being present just means paying attention. Like a marriage or a friendship, your relationship with your child needs positive attention to thrive. Attention = Love. Like your garden, your car, or your work, what you attend to flourishes. And, of course, that kind of attentiveness takes time. You can multi-task at it while you’re making dinner, but the secret of a great relationship is some focused time every day attending only to that child.”This is all too vague for me. What am I supposed to actually DO?”