Is your son a constant bundle of energy … always moving, unable to sit still, even for a few moments? Is your daughter easily distracted and forgetful, tending to frequently “have her head in the clouds”?
Maybe you’ve tried to calm your child down, or urged him to focus. You may have attempted to increase his nightly hours of sleep, adjusted his diet or encouraged him to get more physical exercise—yet nothing appears to be working.
Paying attention is the child’s ability to focus on a person or object while ignoring other interesting things in the environment that are competing for his awareness. It is related to the child’s developing abilities to learn and remember. The development of a child’s ability to pay attention is very important for her later success in school and it is part of the ability to self-regulate. Self regulating means that the child actively behaves in a way that allows him to achieve a goal, without direction or motivation from someone else like a parent or a teacher; for instance, when he leaves his friends, who are teasing each other and horsing around at story time, to go sit quietly at circle because he really wants to hear the story. Continue reading →
As parents we spend so much of our time talking to our kids — and then wonder why they don’t seem to hear us. In heated moments, we find ourselves stuck in power struggles, but can’t figure out what to say to stop the fighting. Sometimes we just don’t know how to answer a tough question. Continue reading →
In two-parent families, the mother’s role as caregiver is so scripted that her involvement can easily go unnoticed and unacknowledged. Meanwhile, kids whose fathers spend one-on-one time with them “may develop higher general self-worth because their fathers go beyond social expectations to devote undivided attention to them.”
Jealousy between sisters and brothers is the most common source of tension in the majority of families. Professionals like to label this problem “sibling rivalry.” This simply means “competition.” Sisters and brothers compete against one another in order to achieve a more favorable position in the eyes of their parents. The prize, of course, is more attention, more love, and a sense of greater status within the family as the most favored child. As the children see it, the name of the game is looking good in your parents’ eyes while seeing to it that your brothers or sisters look really bad. Continue reading →