Paying attention is the child’s ability to focus on a person or object while ignoring other interesting things in the environment that are competing for his awareness. It is related to the child’s developing abilities to learn and remember. The development of a child’s ability to pay attention is very important for her later success in school and it is part of the ability to self-regulate. Self regulating means that the child actively behaves in a way that allows him to achieve a goal, without direction or motivation from someone else like a parent or a teacher; for instance, when he leaves his friends, who are teasing each other and horsing around at story time, to go sit quietly at circle because he really wants to hear the story. Continue reading →
The ones who say please and thank you. Who share without whining. Who ask to be excused before they leave the table.
Sometimes they’re our very own children, behaving in a way that reminds us we’re doing something right. But other times, those same kids are melting down at Chili’s or using their fingers as tools for nasal exploration. Continue reading →
As parents we spend so much of our time talking to our kids — and then wonder why they don’t seem to hear us. In heated moments, we find ourselves stuck in power struggles, but can’t figure out what to say to stop the fighting. Sometimes we just don’t know how to answer a tough question. Continue reading →
Simply clicking away from disturbing stories isn’t a solution to the problem that all parents face in this fallen world: helping our kids deal with death. Even if we do manage to click away (or turn off our televisions and radios), we can’t prevent our kids from learning about people dying – even young people, like them.
It’s challenging to know how to help kids who are grieving the traumatic news of other kids’ tragic deaths. Many professionals like psychiatrists and doctors try to help, but come up short. Yet, as a parent, you have more of an impact on your children than anyone else does – so you’re in the best position to help them deal with death.
Here’s how you can help your kids deal with death:
Start conversations gently:
If it’s clear that your kids have already learned about someone’s death (either a person in the news or someone they knew personally, such as a classmate or grandparent), don’t avoid talking about it. Your children may raise the subject with you, or they may not know how to do so – but they need your help to process the news whether or not they bring it up. Continue reading →
Each child reacts to this complicated and heartbreaking issue in their own way. The answer depends on many factors, such as the child’s personality, his or her relationship to the sick parent, the age of the child, his or her maturity, and the child’s developmental needs—along with how close or distant the death is. Continue reading →
Relationship breakdown can be one of the most difficult periods in a person’s life. It is often a time when you may experience confusion, sadness and anger with high levels of conflict. For some, these emotions can continue for a period of time, while for others, an acceptance that the relationship has ended occurs very quickly and the healing process commences. Sadly, our children can be the ones most impacted by the end of a relationship.
Children react to separation in different ways. The way your children will react depends on many factors including:
Family relationships before separation
Your children’s ages and personalities
How both parents manage the situation
These tips are designed to help separating couples to minimize any impact on their children. While you may cease to be a partner, you never cease to be a parent.