What is Expected from Your Kids?

Our two daughter is generally pretty pleasant and polite at restaurants.  Even so, I don’t think I would take her to an establishment who thinks it’s their business to judge how “good or bad” my kids are at any particular evening.  Does the restaurant also offer discounts (or in actuality it was free ice cream that was written up on the bill as a discount) for adults who exhibit good behavior? I’ve seen many an adult act like an over tired child in need of a nap while out in public.

I’ve also travelled  many times, with my young daughters and I have never tried to care much about what other people thing about some unexpected behaviours they show dutinh their visit to public places. I’m not judging the parents who thought that was a good idea (they actually weren’t the first to do that) but I think it is a statement on society that they felt the need to do so.

Kids are, well, they are kids.  Babies and young children in particular can be unpredictable, emotional and unable to communicate their needs clearly.  They, like all of us, have good days and bad days.  The difference is we are full gown adults who should know how to act like adults in public no matter how crumby our day is.  Kids don’t automatically have those skills, they are taught and take time to sink in.  If you are going to go to a grocery store, family restaurant or getting on a plane you have to expect that there might be children present and there may be crying, screaming or tantrums.  That is life.

You were a kid once too and you were not perfect.  I don’t want to hear crap about how your parents never would have “allowed” you to act that way. No parent that I know just “allows” their infant to cry or their 2 year old to have a tantrum.  That’s just what they do! It’s not a sign of bad parenting or a society that is raising spoiled brats. And if your parents really and truly were able to stop every single incident of childhood angst before it even started I honestly don’t want to know the details of how they did it because it probably was not something healthy or positive.

Have fun with your kids.There are ups and downs,good or bad but in the end who will remember these once they are grown.Do not expect the unexpected from your kids.

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