Maintain a Healthy Relationship With Your Parents
As you both grow older, the bond between parent and child must evolve as well
Of course you love your parents — that’s a given. But at times, maintaining the bond between parent and adult child can be as challenging as that between parent and teenager.These days, both of you are confronting new challenges — retirement or career changes, health issues, concerns about the future.
It’s to be expected these issues will affect your relationship, but as you change, so, too, must your relationship with your parents change.Part of that evolution requires forging a new relationship, one between mature adults rather than “parent” and “child.” You already have the basic underpinnings — love and shared memories.
Add mutual respect and common interests and you may find a more fulfilling relationship with your mother and your father than any you’ve had since childhood.Of course, some things never change — Mom might still offer her unsolicited opinions on your weight and wardrobe, and Dad might still only start a conversation if it has to do with your car. The key is to love the best parts of ?them and learn to accept the rest.
Following are some points to consider
1. Think of them as fellow adults, rather than as your parents
2. Talk to your parents as friends.
3. Keep your sense of humor.
4. Tell your parents what bothers you.
5. Don’t ask your parents’ advice or opinion unless you really want it.