Protecting children from abuse and neglect

Children depend on many adults as they grow up. Parents, relatives, teachers and child care workers all provide children with love, support and guidance.No one wants to see children grow up with fear, anger or neglect. But no one is born knowing how to care for children. Sometimes we make mistakes that hurt them.Whether you are a parent, a teacher, a relative or a caregiver, you can make a difference and help the children you love grow up in a caring, loving environment. Adults don’t have to be perfect, just willing to listen, learn, grow, and change.

Why Do Adults Hurt Children?

Carlos came home from work in a foul mood. Seven-year-old Miguel ran out of the kitchen just as his father walked in, and they ran into each other. Carlos cursed and grabbed his son. He shook Miguel hard while yelling at him, and then shoved him out of the way. The next day, Miguel’s arms and back had bruises.It takes a lot to care for a child. A child needs food, clothing, and shelter as well as love and attention. Parents and caregivers want to provide all those things, but they have other pressures, too. Sometimes adults just can’t provide everything their children need.Adults may not intend to hurt the children they care for. But sometimes adults lose control, and sometimes they hurt children.Adults may hurt children because they:Lose their tempers when they think about their own problemsDon’t know how to discipline a childExpect behavior that is unrealistic for a child’s age or abilityHave been abused by a parent or a partnerHave financial problemsLose control when they use alcohol or other drugs
What is Child Abuse?

This is an example of physical child abuse.
Teresa had just changed 18-month-old Dale’s dirty diaper when he had another messy diaper; this made Teresa angry. She thought that putting him in hot water would punish him for the dirty diaper. When she put him in the tub, he cried loudly. Teresa slapped him to stop the crying and didn’t notice the scald marks until after the bath was over.

Examples of Physical Child Abuse

Shaking or shoving
Slapping or hittingBeating with a belt, shoe, or other object
Burning a child with matches or cigarettes
Scalding a child with water that is too hot
Pulling a child’s hair out
Breaking a child’s arm, leg, or other bones
Not letting a child eat, drink, or use the bathroom

What is Sexual Child Abuse?

This is an example of sexual child abuse.
Nine-year-old Susan’s mother works at night. Her stepfather James is around when she goes to bed, so many evenings James lies down beside Susan. As she goes to sleep, he rubs her breasts and genital area.

Examples of Sexual Child Abuse

Fondling a child’s genitals
Having intercourse with a child
Having oral sex with a child
Having sex in front of a child
Having a child touch an older person’s genitals
Using a child in pornography
Showing X-rated books or movies to a child

What is Child Neglect?

This is an example of neglect.
John worked nights at the grocery store, but the family needed more money. Ellen looked for work, but the only job she could find required her to leave home at 3 a.m. The children, ages two and six, were alone for a few hours until John got home.

Examples of Child Neglect

Not meeting a child’s need for food, clothing, shelter or safety
Leaving a child unwatched
Leaving a child in an unsafe place
Not seeking necessary medical attention for a child
Not having a child attend school

Why Do Abuse and Neglect Happen?

Parents and caretakers don’t always know that they are being abusive or neglectful. Few adults actually intend to hurt or neglect children.Sometimes a caretaker just doesn’t know a better way to discipline a child. Sometimes an adult is just too frustrated with life and takes it out on a child.An adult is more likely to abuse or neglect a child:
If the caretaker was abused as a child
If the caretaker is being abused by a spouse or partner
If the caretaker uses alcohol or other drugs
If the adult expects too much of a child
If the child is the result of an unplanned pregnancy

Some adults don’t know how to correct a child without causing physical harm. An adult who has this problem can learn new ways to discipline without hurting a child.

Look for times when the child is behaving well. Praise that behavior.
Agree on a code word to use when things reach the boiling point. The code word signals that everyone needs some time to cool down before talking about the problem.
When a child misbehaves, give the child a “time-out”, a few minutes alone to think about what happened.
Talk to the child about the misbehavior and its effects.

Sometimes, parents and caretakers need to learn to control their own anger. They need to identify the things that make them more likely to hurt the children in their care.Caretakers who abuse or neglect a child might be:

Worried about not having enough money
Having problems with spouses or partners
Coping with a family member’s illness or deathActing the way their parents acted
Stressed from their jobs or other problems
Expecting unrealistic behavior for example, thinking a 5-year-old can handle the same tasks as a 9-year-old, and do them as well.

Often people who abuse or neglect children experience more than one of these situations at the same time.Hurting a child or not filling a child’s basic needs never makes things better. No matter what the problem, help is available.

Do You Know a Child Who Is Abused or Neglected?

Brenda’s teacher saw signs of neglect.In the preschool class, four-year-old Brenda always seemed tired. Brenda never brought food for snack time, and she looked hungrily at other children’s sandwiches. Her classmates teased her because her hair was always dirty.Paul saw signs of physical child abuse.Paul lived next door to the Harris family, where someone always seemed to be yelling or crying. One night Paul heard glass break, then a man’s shouting and a loud thump. Ten-year-old Keisha ran out the door a few seconds later, crying. Her face was swollen with the start of a black eye.The effects of child abuse can last a lifetime. An abused or neglected child needs help right away. Is a child you know being abused or neglected?

Warning Signs of Abuse and Neglect

Cuts and bruises
Broken bones or internal injuries
BurnsConstant hunger or thirst
Lack of interest in surroundings
Dirty hair or skin, frequent diaper rash
Lack of supervisionPain, bruising, or bleeding in the genitals
More knowledge about sex than is normal for the child’s age
Hard-to-believe stories about how accidents occurred

What Happens to Abused and Neglected Children?

Abuse and neglect have harmful effects on children. At worst, a child could die. More often, abused or neglected children live with fear or pain.Abused or neglected children often experience:

Frequent injuries
Learning problems
Fear or shyness
Bad dreams
Behavior problems
Depression
Fear of certain adults or places

The effects don’t end when the abuse or neglect stops. When abused or neglected children grow up, they are more likely to:
Abuse their own families
Use violence to solve their problems
Have trouble learning
Have emotional difficulties
Attempt suicide
Use alcohol or other drugs

Abuse and neglect are hard on the whole family. Some families need help in dealing with practical problems — for example, getting help to buy groceries or learning how to discipline a child without resorting to violence. In other cases, a child protection agency might move abused or neglected children away from their parents to a safe, temporary home. If abuse or neglect is severe, or if it continues, the children can be permanently moved away from their parents into a safe situation.

How Can We End Abuse and Neglect?

Sometimes, people are afraid to report abuse or neglect because they don’t want to break up a family. Sometimes, people are afraid to get involved in someone else’s problem.

When you report suspected child abuse or neglect, you could be saving that child’s life?
The goal of stopping abuse and neglect is to keep children safe. Part of keeping children safe is finding help for the adults who have hurt them. Adults who have abused or neglected a child have many places to turn for help.

The child’s doctor can explain children’s needs at every age. He or she can recommend places to learn more about parenting and child care.
Local health and social service departments often have parenting classes.
Social service workers also can help parents get assistance to ease their financial situations.
Hospitals and community centers often have classes on stress reduction, parenting, discipline, and nutrition.Psychologists, counselors, and social workers can help parents and caregivers deal with problems like drug use, anger, and previous experiences of abuse.
Religious groups often provide food, counseling, and other types of support for anyone in the community — not just their members.
If you see that a relative, neighbor, or friend is under a lot of stress and might hurt children in their care, suggest that the person get help from one of these services. Stop the problem before it starts.

What Should I Do If I Suspect a Child Is Being Hurt?

Report your suspicion to a local, county or state child protection agency. Call a crisis hotline or find the agency number in the blue government pages of a telephone directory.

Who Must Report Abuse?

In every state, the following people are required by law to report suspected abuse:
Doctors
Nurses
Dentists
Mental health professionals
Social workers
Teachers
Day care workers
Law enforcement personnel
In some states, clergy, foster parents, attorneys, and camp counselors also are required to report abuse. In about 20 states, any person who suspects abuse is required to report it.

When you make a report, the agency will make a judgment about how serious the situation is. If necessary, a child protection worker will visit the family to see whether abuse or neglect has occurred and to determine what needs to be done. The goals of child protection are to
Stop the abuse
Give needed services to the family
Help the family become safe and loving

No child should have to live in fear of abuse or neglect.

Protect the children you love — help stop child abuse and neglect.

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